Option B
7.7 out of 5 stars
Author：SherylSandberg/AdamGrant
Publisher：Knopf
Subtitle：FacingAdversity,BuildingResilience,andFindingJoy
Published：2017-4-24
Page count：240
ISBN：9781524732684
Content Summary
From Facebook's COO and Wharton's top-rated professor, the #1 New York Times best-selling authors of Lean In and Originals: a powerful, inspiring, and practical book about building resilience and moving forward after life's inevitable setbacks. After the sudden death of her husband, Sheryl Sandberg felt certain that she and her children would never feel pure joy again. "I was in 'the void, '" she writes, "a vast emptiness that fills your heart and lungs and restricts your ability to think or even breathe." Her friend Adam Grant, a psychologist at Wharton, told her there are concrete steps people can take to recover and rebound from life-shattering experiences. We are not born with a fixed amount of resilience. It is a muscle that everyone can build. Option B combines Sheryl's personal insights with Adam's eye-opening research on finding strength in the face of adversity. Beginning with the gut-wrenching moment when she finds her husband, Dave Goldberg, collapsed on a gym floor, Sheryl opens up her heart--and her journal--to describe the acute grief and isolation she felt in the wake of his death. But Option B goes beyond Sheryl's loss to explore how a broad range of people have overcome hardships including illness, job loss, sexual assault, natural disasters, and the violence of war. Their stories reveal the capacity of the human spirit to persevere . . . and to rediscover joy. Resilience comes from deep within us and from support outside us. Even after the most devastating events, it is possible to grow by finding deeper meaning and gaining greater appreciation in our lives. Option B illuminates how to help others in crisis, develop compassion for ourselves, raise strong children, and create resilient families, communities, and workplaces. Many of these lessons can be applied to everyday struggles, allowing us to brave whatever lies ahead. Two weeks after losing her husband, Sheryl was preparing for a father-child activity. "I want Dave," she cried. Her friend replied, "Option A is not available," and then promised to help her make the most of Option B. We all live some form of Option B. This book will help us all make the most of it.
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[" 复原力源于每个人的内在，也源于他们获得的外部支持；复原力源于因生命中的美好而引发的感恩，也源于在挫败中学到的经验；它既来自对于悲伤的解析，也来自对悲伤的接纳。 放眼世界，人们在表露消极情绪时大都会面对来自文化的压力。 有力的证据表明，对所经历的悲剧事件敞开心扉，有助于提升一个人的心理健康以及生理健康水平。 ……从压力实验中得知，噪声消失并不是减轻压力的关键因素，按钮的存在才是关键。 在他人经历痛苦时，我们应该遵守“白金法则”（而不是“黄金法则”）：“按照他人希望被对待的方式对待他。” 自我同情常常与自责相伴相生。自我同情并不意味着对过去责任的逃避和解脱，自我同情要我们确信，我们不应把自己打击得那么狠，以致破坏了未来。自我同情让我们意识到，做了坏事并不一定代表自己就成了坏人。 创伤后的成长会以五种形式存在：发现个人的力量，学会感恩，建立更深层次的关系，找到更多的人生意义，以及发现新生活的可能性。 追求没有意义的快乐，人生会漫无目的；但只有意义没有快乐的人生也是令人沮丧的。 ……心理学家称此现象为“刻板印象威胁”，即人们担心自己被归入消极的刻板印象。焦虑会扰乱我们的思维，而这种担心也会变成自我实现的预言，导致我们恰好符合刻板印象。 为了失败后的复原，我们需要从失败中学习。大多数时候，虽然我们明白这个道理，但很难做到。我们太缺乏安全感，不敢承认错误；或者我们太骄傲，不愿向别人承认我们的错误。 ……我们通常会为错过的机会而遗憾，而不是为我们抓住机会、采取行动而遗憾。 幽默会增强我们的复原力。 () —— 引自章节：全文 "," 我现在知道，一个人将会在经历创伤后不断成长。 我也相信，经历创伤前成长，即一个人不必经历悲剧就可以提前建立自己的复原力，能为面对潜伏在人生前路的障碍做准备。 () —— 引自第9页 "]